H(appiness) = S(etpoint) + C(onditions) + V(oluntary activities). happiness comes from between. Happiness is not something that you can find, acquire, or achieve directly. You have to get the conditions right and then wait. Some of those conditions are within you, such as coherence among the parts and levels of your personality. Other conditions require relationships to things beyond you: Just as plants need sun, water, and good soil to thrive, people need love, work, and a connection to something larger. It is worth striving to get the right relationships between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger than yourself. If you get these relationships right, a sense of purpose and meaning will emerge
"Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself"; therefore you need to know what is your partner's preferred way of being loved and speak in the love language(s) that s/he understands and appreciates.