(1-minute read) How to love? This may sound like an easy question, but loving is actually a complex art & science! Gary Chapman, marriage counselor, pastor, and the bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts answered this question in a very insightful, yet easy-to-understand way. He said “Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself”; therefore you need to know what is your partner’s preferred way of being loved and speak in the love language(s) that s/he understands and appreciates.
You may be wondering, WeZBest is about empowering people to become the best versions of themselves and live fulfilled lives – why are we talking about love and relationships here? Because love matters! According to a 75-year Harvard study, love & relationship are the secrets to happy and fulfilling lives.
[Action Step] Check out the chart below to learn what the 5 love languages are. Then figure out how your partner would rank these 5 love languages, from the most important to the least important. Make sure you’re consistently and consciously speaking his/her language(s) – align your actions and words with what s/he values
Does it sound like lots of work? That’s right! Like everything else worth having, love takes efforts.
“Real love” – “This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth” – Gary Chapman